To Be or Not to Be?

A statement that postulates the idea of existence and non-existence in one breath. Within that seemingly profound notion, you will discover the intrinsic presence of balance. Yin and Yang, is yet another concept of existence that requires balance between opposing forces by the very nature of their being. The concept of non-existence could not be, without the concept of being.  Conversely, the concept of being could not be without the concept of non-existence.  To maintain both concepts requires balance, without balance only one concept could exist or not exist as the case may be.

Plainly stated, time is balance. Time is the concept that allows for our perceptions to cycle from being, to not being, from the past into the future. The present moment, which is all we truly ever experience is the fulcrum of balance within the concept of time. Without time, or the perception of time, we would not be able to hold onto the notion of opposites as with Yen and Yang, Good and Evil, Existence and Non-Existence.
Opposites, remaining separate and apart, yet inter-dependent within the concept of time.

Separation then, is the idea that things are apart from one another. In opposition, locked in this eternal struggle until balance is achieved through some unification of principles or ideals. Our very own self perpetuated perception of distance and time, where all things are in a cyclic evolutionary process of improvement with destiny at the helm.  Acceptance and tolerance the only tools available to prevent self-annihilation.

The Pendulum is a symbol of time, swinging left to right while consistently acknowledging the simultaneous existence of opposites. The pendulum can only be left or right at any given moment, except of course at that moment in time when it is dead center. Not left, not right, but in unified balance. Think of that moment when the pendulum is centered as the present moment in time when all things left and right exist simultaneously in the "NOW"....  The concept of "NOW" commands our focus to the center or fulcrum of our existence, the fulcrum in time between all things past and future.  It is where all creation resides in BALANCE.

The "NOW" is all that is, ever was.... or will ever be. 
It is NOW and only NOW that you can ever experience in time or eternity. 
I AM, NOW is truth in its simplest form. 
In the NOW there is only I AM, no room exists for I WAS or I WILL BE.

Time Stands Still before Eternity, just like the pendulum at that crucial moment of balance between the ticks of time and concepts of opposition, all things in creation co-exist in the NOW. The concepts of opposition become united and one at this point, all things exist without time and remain within the cooperative and eternal state of balance.

Like the words on this page, the entire script exists NOW, regardless of your perceived process of evolution and experience in time to read and understand them. It is NOW necessary to point out the balance between the existence of the words and their non-existence which is represented by the presence of the spaces or nothingness between them.  Thus allowing for your concepts of separation and time in reading them.                                 "ALL IS NOW.....NOW IS ALL....THAT IS"
I am reminded of a dream that I had years ago of a friend who passed away. In the dream I was shown an egg and a set of scales. While holding both symbols before me he said this.  Balance, like the Egg, it is the symbol of life !!   It stands balanced between life and death, existence and non-existence. 

I woke up and glanced at the clock noting 5 a.m.   Later while at work someone came by and asked if I had heard the news about my friend. I replied, yes I had...he died early this morning at 5 a.m.  They then asked...How did you know because his wife just called only a few minutes ago?  In his memory and of the symbols he revealed I wrote the following regarding the cyclic balance of life.


   "AUTUMN"
                                                           Whisper of change on wings of wind...
                                                            leaves of gold give way to them.

                                                            As each day folds into the night..
                                                            Autumn evens out the light.

                                                            Symbol of life stands balanced within..
                                                            an equinox of Autumns call, to begin and end.

                                                            The gentle touch of Autumns spell..
                                                            then summer sleeps, through Winters Hell !!




 TRex@WorldWide-Evolution.com 1998/05/03

New Life

I imagine a New Life growing from the ground, basking in the warm Spring sun.

A fresh grown New Life would mean no more worrying - since we could just regrow and change whenever problems come up...

This New Life would mean no more stress - since we're always doing what we want, when we want, with the people we love...

This New Life would mean the best possible work / life balance at all times - since we design our lives exactly the way we want to...

… In fact, this New Life would mean a second chance at a life we love. As soon as we pluck it from the ground.

КАК ПРАВИЛЬНО СТРОИТЬ ОТНОШЕНИЯ?

Есть известный афоризм о том, что люди часто предлагают партнеру стать друзьями, когда собираются порвать отношения, хотя с этого их нужно было начинать. Не будем забывать, что отношения мужчины и женщины – это, прежде всего, отношения человека с человеком, и для их гармонизации применимы те же способы, которые помогают улучшить отношения с любыми людьми. Почему-то мы часто забываем об этом и, найдя свою «вторую половинку», со временем начинаем предъявлять к ней слишком высокие требования, считая, что уж с любимым-то человеком можно расслабиться и вести себя как заблагорассудится, он ведь нас любит и должен понять. Но, к сожалению или к счастью, природа создала нас в единственном экземпляре, и нет никого на планете, кто мог бы понять нас целиком и полностью. Поэтому вспомним основы построения хороших отношений:


- Уважение. Каждый имеет право на высказывание собственного мнения и принятие собственных решений. Руководствуясь принципом «Кто не с нами – тот против нас», долгосрочные отношения вряд ли построишь.


- Общение. В данном случае я говорю не об обмене фактами и новостями, а об обмене эмоциями и чувствами. Говорите партнеру, что вы чувствуете по поводу тех или иных событий, стремитесь понять, как к ним относится он. Если ваш избранник держит свои чувства при себе, то вам-то точно не стоит этого делать – чрезмерная закрытость сделает отношения фальшивыми и ненатуральными. Старайтесь не говорить слишком много обиняками и намеками, вспомните детскую игру в «глухой» телефон. Спросите любого мужчину – лучше он сразу узнает, что именно вам не понравилось, чем через месяц вы устроите ему истерику и выскажите сразу все, что накопилось в душе за это время.


- Терпение. Чтобы съесть яблоко, нужно сначала посадить семечко, вырастить саженец, дать ему возможность зацвести и завязать плоды. Так и с отношениями. Какие-то чувства возникают сразу, для созревания других требуется время. Если вы делаете что-то для улучшения ваших отношений, будьте готовы к тому, что результат может появиться не сразу. Но крохотная капля точит твердый камень, говорит народная мудрость. Дайте вашему партнеру какое-то время, чтобы измениться внутренне. Если у вас скоро намечается свадьба, почитайте самые популярные свадебные приметы.


- Инициатива. Отношения – это дорога с двухсторонним движением, но кто-то должен быть первым. Если отношения хотите наладить вы, то за вами и первый ход. Возможно и второй. Ну а если после этого ваш партнер не делает движения вам навстречу, придется вспомнить еще одно правило, старое как мир:


- Насильно мил не будешь. Любовь без взаимности – одно из самых тяжелых переживаний человека и иногда заставляет человека пойти на все, что угодно, силой заставить себя полюбить. Увы, итогом такого поведения обычно остаются полностью разрушенные отношения, перечеркивающие то хорошее, что было в них раньше, разочарование, чувство униженности и обида на всю жизнь.








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What Becoming An Aunt Taught Me About Love

Growing up I thought babies were the cutest creatures in the universe and oh-so fun to have around. And I always thought and that one day I will have one of my own, just part of the traditional order of things: meet a man, get married, have babies, repeat with the next generation. And I wanted that. I really, really did.But then, over time, something shifted. I got older. Life started to unroll in front of me. Real life. Not just those blissful early years that look like a blur of wishing on stars, Popsicle, piano practice and incessantly long school days. I went to college. I started a career... I grew up.My friends and I vented over how overwhelming adulthood was, how hard it was finding decent men to date—not to mention it was clear I had a lot of personal journeying to do before I found my future husband. As I thought about, dabbled in and eventually wrote about romantic love, I had to wonder if a good partner actually existed for me. Where was he?

I fantasized about marriage, about a wedding and that incredible husband... but with all the pressures and stressors life piled onto my shoulders, babies had fallen off my wish list. I just didn't feel that longing anymore. The maternal instincts that I'd once been convinced were programmed in me—somewhere between womanly intuition and romantic attraction—had somehow dissolved. I couldn't picture myself rocking a newborn in the early morning hours or changing innumerable dirty diapers. Maybe sleepless nights, dark circles painted under my eyes, disheveled hair and spit-up stains weren't for me after all. I mean, that was the essence of motherhood, right? Taking care of myself was challenging enough. I couldn't imagine feeling responsible for another person's survival. Maybe I'd lost something over the years. Or maybe, as much as the notion hurt me, I just didn't have it in me.

But then, it happened. I hadn't just imagined those early instincts.

Last November, my nephew was born. I remember the trip to visit him in the hospital, his first day on this earth. The hallway to that hospital room was long and dim, and I grew tentative as I approached, hearing a rush of activity and visitors inside. When I entered, suddenly all eyes were on me. "Do you want to hold him?" my sister asked. And the next thing I remember is observing this tiny, perfect little human who was resting in my arms.

He didn't cry. He never opened his eyes. He just slept soundly near my heart, his little body rising and falling with every breath. As I looked at him, I knew:

This baby is going to change my life.

Suddenly, it all came back to me. Loving a baby was a natural skill. I congratulated the parents on their beautiful child, and I left the hospital a couple hours later understanding why so many women became mothers. It's a gift. And since last November I've discovered that being an aunt is one too.
I've watched him grow from a tiny infant, to an inquisitive baby, to a fearless toddler and now a joyful little boy. I've often mused that while his mom and grandma are his caretakers, I'm more like his buddy. We play with toys and wander the house together trying to walk, step by step. I tote him on my hip and show him the falling leaves, the sun setting. His personality develops little by little, everyday, and my perspective on life—and my understanding of my role in the universe—evolves right along with it.
That's the great thing about being an aunt, especially if you are lucky enough to experience it before you become a mother. It's a taste of what's ahead, a perspective-changer. I see life as a step-by-step process and, like babies taking their first steps, we all progress at different paces. But it's important to think ahead, to anticipate the later steps while you're still mid-stride on the present one.

Also very importantly, being an aunt has highlighted, underlined and bolded my priorities as I search for romantic love. Mr. Right must have the qualities of a good father—sensitivity, commitment, flexibility, selflessness, strength and quiet confidence. He needs to be the head of the household, and be a caring dad, because that's the other thing about being an aunt. Although I'm a buddy most of the time, I'm also a caretaker when my nephew needs me. I give him hugs when he cries. I know when he's hungry, tired or just crabby from teething. Babies need non-stop assurance and patience... just like us. My nephew has given me one of the greatest gifts I will ever receive: an understanding of what it means to love. Thanks to what he's taught me, I now know I'm capable of being a not only a wife, but a mom. I have a (nearly) one-year-old to thank for that. While today I'm an aunt, a buddy and friend, I can see myself transitioning into the role of mother. Until I met my nephew, I had no idea how much love I had to give. Now I get what raw, real human love looks like. It's selfless. It's unconditional. No strings attached. It's necessary in any great relationship. And it's something I will seek out in a spouse as I move, step by step, through my life.

female friendships; friendships man and woman

I've been catching myself lately thinking about people in my life, friends, and friendship. There is a Russian saying "you will know who your true friends are when you are in trouble". So, here I am trying to understand what is true friend, what are friends, and what are friends in between. Do we choose our friends?
Are there friends at all? Do we always act from a selfish point, do we always want something back, in return from our friends, or our friendship is unconditional? And what about when you don't hear from them in a while, and you speculate and wonder, why he/she can't just pick up the phone and dial you,and your friend(friends) perhaps thinks the same. And here we are waiting on one another to make a first move. While time is passing, months are passing, and nothing happens. I thought of calling first, actually I always did,if its a female friend, then its not an issue calling any time of the day. But if its a male friend,then here is were riddle hides.
Are we only being friends with those whom we enjoy, or learn from?
I personally not clear what true friendship looks like, and feels. Always thought that I was a good friend, while growing up, I had many acquaintances, and only two or three close friends. Those are still in my life, but life has drifted us apart trough years. Oceans separate me with my childhood friend,and only street separates me with another.


why do we become so absorbed in daily mundane life much absorbed in our own issues,that we only remember friends when we suddenly left alone with our solitude.

I believe that we come into this life alone, with nothing and we leave this life alone with nothing.
How do we become a better friend, how do we know what is what, who is who? I've learned that first we must master to balance our ego and our intuition. Our ego can work for us, and not against us. If you want to have friends, be a good friend first. Learn not to expect much from another, practice compassion and empathy.

yea and the friendship between man and a woman...is not possible. or is it???
I have few good gay gays friends and I enjoy our friendship. But I am talking about... yea that kind. When you met him, he is into you and you are not. You offer "friendship" he takes it. Another scenario, is you are into him and he is "confused" and offers to be friends. In my opinion its a torture for the one who has feelings. Why would you stick around, oh yes...there is hope, right? maybe he will see how great you are and will change his mind. I've been there before.

Well, I do believe, that great, everlasting relationships starts up as an awesome friendship first. Sigh...and not vice verse.

Ok, I will leave it at that for now...I guess time will show....!?

today's thoughts out lound

I often wonder about how some people come into our lives and stay for a while,some stay for ever, some leave and come back multiple times...and some never return...even though secretly we very much want them to return into our lives, while subconsciously knowing that its time to move on.