For me, the answer often seems very obvious:
* Too many expectations
There are some "issues", what I believe gets overlooked for many (single) women
* Witty sense of humor
* Innate ability to weather various circumstances with a relative cool demeanor - work ups/downs, multiple moves, having a child
* A diverse set of interests: I write, I love historical fiction, I would live in Paris tomorrow if I could, I play beach volleyball, I aspire to go hang-gliding, and I want to start my own business someday
* And last but not least, I'm incredibly self-sufficient. I put together my own chairs, I lug things up and down stairs, I move myself (or hire/help movers) and I don't need someone else's money to get by.
All said and done....what's wrong with this picture? Or better, what's wrong with the bigger picture in society...?
We ask a women to not be catty, but she's
"unemotional". We ask a women to be self-sufficient, she's too "independent". We ask a woman to be skilled in a variety of areas, she doesn't give men enough "room" to step in and help. We ask a woman to be light and humor versus too emotional, she's "sassy".
It's fair to say society sends men and women a slew of mixed messages. And as a result, many women remain single and wonder "why". And I know I'm not alone...you know who you are out there.
Yes, some of us may have more obvious marks on our wall as to "why" the holding hands moment isn't happening right now...but I also know many single men, with similar backgrounds/lifestyles, who struggle far less than single women to find relationships beyond an ad hoc (improvised ) dinner outing.
Single? Yes.
Why? Society has too many phobias on what's right or wrong, or accepted versus not accepted. And with a population that's >50% woman, even the brightest, strongest, most beautiful woman out there can get shelved as men seek for a shinier, less weighty object (as in "baggage") to hang onto.
* Too many expectations
There are some "issues", what I believe gets overlooked for many (single) women
* Witty sense of humor
* Innate ability to weather various circumstances with a relative cool demeanor - work ups/downs, multiple moves, having a child
* A diverse set of interests: I write, I love historical fiction, I would live in Paris tomorrow if I could, I play beach volleyball, I aspire to go hang-gliding, and I want to start my own business someday
* And last but not least, I'm incredibly self-sufficient. I put together my own chairs, I lug things up and down stairs, I move myself (or hire/help movers) and I don't need someone else's money to get by.
All said and done....what's wrong with this picture? Or better, what's wrong with the bigger picture in society...?
We ask a women to not be catty, but she's
"unemotional". We ask a women to be self-sufficient, she's too "independent". We ask a woman to be skilled in a variety of areas, she doesn't give men enough "room" to step in and help. We ask a woman to be light and humor versus too emotional, she's "sassy".
It's fair to say society sends men and women a slew of mixed messages. And as a result, many women remain single and wonder "why". And I know I'm not alone...you know who you are out there.
Yes, some of us may have more obvious marks on our wall as to "why" the holding hands moment isn't happening right now...but I also know many single men, with similar backgrounds/lifestyles, who struggle far less than single women to find relationships beyond an ad hoc (improvised ) dinner outing.
Single? Yes.
Why? Society has too many phobias on what's right or wrong, or accepted versus not accepted. And with a population that's >50% woman, even the brightest, strongest, most beautiful woman out there can get shelved as men seek for a shinier, less weighty object (as in "baggage") to hang onto.
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